Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

10: Ways To Be The Man Women Want

Women are excellent at figuring out if a guy is a “Man’s Man,” or if he’s just pretending to be one. The fact is that most guys have some growing up to do. If you want to be the kind of guy that women are naturally attracted to -- no flowers, gifts or dinners required -- then you need to let your “inner boy” die and mature into the masculine man you were born to be. Women will LOVE you for it. Here are my top 10 ways to be the MAN women want:

  • Number 10 : Learn to attract women by just being yourse lf Many men feel an invisible barrier to becoming a man… and that barrier is magnified by the inability to attract women by just being yourself. The fact is, many of us have a “dark cloud” that follows us everywhere when we don’t have that special something that makes women want to be with us -- “for no reason at all, just because they enjoy being around you.” If a man is actually a boy on the inside, then he not only can’t see the path to fix the problem, but he also doesn’t even know that the path exists. But there IS a path -- believe me. Keep reading…
  • Number 9 : Get “unstuck” and grow upI believe that most of the people we refer to as “men” today are only called that because of their age and size; it has nothing to do with the deeper meaning of the word “man.” What happens when a man reaches a certain age, but doesn’t mature past a certain point in life? Or worse, what if some vital part of the maturation process that’s usually present in the external world isn’t there at a critical point in a man’s development… so that he winds up stuck at a certain psychological or emotional point? This is the problem most of us guys face: We were never shown the way to manhood, and now we have to figure it out for ourselves.
  • Number 8 : It’s OK to be a man. many men have learned to be unconsciously ashamed of their desires and natural drives -- and to repress or even hate them. When you try to fight your own nature, it will come back to bite you in the ass later, in a million ways. And when it comes back, it won’t be a simple drive to screw a woman’s brains out; it will be a complex web of neurotic thoughts, feelings and patterns that are very difficult to unwire. You must accept yourself, embrace the fact that you’re a man and have a man’s nature, then learn to observe all that happens -- from sexual impulses to killer instincts -- and harness the power from all of it. This is among the most important ways to be the man women want.
  • Number 7 : Never follow the woman ,Men often try to follow a woman who doesn’t want to lead, and when she doesn’t lead, the man tries to convince her to lead with questions and body language that seeks approval. She leads, he follows -- in fact, she isn’t even leading, but he tries to follow. This is a huge mistake. Instead, step up, be a man and LEAD. Pick a course and stay on it -- even though she is all over the map. Let her reorient her body, behavior and moods to yours. Don’t backpedal, change, explain yourself, or ever try to get her to lead. She may resist at first, but she’ll love you for it in the end.
  • Number 6 :Take personal responsibilityTake personal responsibility for yourself, your thoughts and your situation. Learn to see how the choices you’ve made have led you to where you are. Refuse to be a victim --and refuse to give anyone the power to take your joy from you. Women find this type of self-responsible guy very attractive.
  • Number 5 : Stop giving away your powerMost men give away their power to women to get approval. The problem is that this is not one of the ways to be the man women want. That’s why those few men who choose to keep their power are so powerfully attractive to women. What’s the lesson here? Never give away your power to get on a woman’s “good side.” If feels like it should work, but it NEVER does.
  • Number 4 : “Man up” about your insecuritiesInstead of hiding the things that you’re insecure about, feature them until you’re over them. How? Practice making cocky jokes about them when you first meet a woman and are flirting. Say something like, “This is never going to work out; you’re not good at arguing and I over compensate for being short by acting arrogant... so we’d always argue, and I’d always win.”
  • Number 3 : Stop needing a woman to need youMany men feel “left out” if a woman wants to do something alone or with friends other than him. Get over the automatic-response feeling of jealousy, loss or sadness if she’s looking forward to enjoying doing something without you. Cultivate your ability to want to do things without her… and truly enjoy them. These are especially important when it comes to women who are new in your life. It’s mature to allow others to live their lives and enjoy experiences without you and without you feeling that you’re losing something. The other side of this coin is to allow yourself to live your life and enjoy your own experiences -- without needing others to validate your enjoyment. Get a life man! And experience this as one of the best ways to be the man women want.
  • Number 2 : Give up “girly man” behaviorBecoming a “Man’s Man” means giving up a lot of things that most men hold on to. It means giving up throwing emotional tantrums to get attention. It means giving up correcting people because you need to feel important. It means no longer disagreeing with people to show your superiority or being a “know it all” so people will give you approval. It means you must stop saying and doing things to win attention and approval, instead of coming from a place of wanting to add value and genuinely help a situation. Give up these immature patterns that most guys get sucked into, and you’ll be well on your way to becoming the type of man who naturally attracts women.
  • Number 1 : Constantly grow yourself to get an unfair advantageBecoming the type of masculine, complete man that women are uncontrollably attracted to is a process. As soon as you think you’ve arrived, you see there’s another higher level on the horizon. Sadly, most guys never get started on this journey to true adulthood. They remain little boys trapped inside a man’s body. But if you want to be a man who has a continual stream of women in his life -- or one high-quality woman that you can keep for as long as you like -- then commit, right now, to do whatever it takes to grow yourself into the man you were born to become.

Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Sex, sighs and surveys: Prediction 2008

Children make some of the most candid observations. When a six-year-old asked at a party, "Why do elders get funny when someone says sex?" the adults present didn't have an answer. Much later someone said, "Last year there was too much sex-talk in the air, don't know what will happen this year."

Going by the many surveys last year and all thing sex-related that made the headlines, here is what we think will be utmost on our minds in 2008, sexually of course.

1. Children and sex will remain in focus.
Both in terms of child sex education and child pornography/sexual abuse. They should too given the September 2007 report released by the Ministry and Child Development announced they had 53.22 per cent children abused in india.
Circa 2008: Given the rising numbers and the raging debate around sex-education for children, hopefully'sex education' will be viewed differently: Less on whether 16-year-olds are mating in class and more about protecting the children from what should not happen to them, be it someone their age or older.

2. Much time will be devoted to the Search for the Big O
More column space, more lad mags and chick-lit, more blogs and yes, more sex... While 68 per cent Indians are happy with their sex lives apparently only 46 per cent have'regular' orgasms (Durex Sexual Wellbeing Survey, April 2007).
Circa 2008: The rest of the Indians will also strive to the join the happy-with-sex-lives lot and those who are having sex will find no reason to stop seeking that O.

3. Sex, fast and furious
Survey also shows that Indians get satisfied with little and have the quickest sex in the world. The rest of the world takes 18 minutes while indians make do with 13 minutes. Indians are fast and even the women don't mind given 66 per cent of Indian women were satisfied with their sex lives. Foreplay of course is a myth.
Circa 2008: However, given that the lesser men were satisfied with their sex lives (58 per cent) as compared to the women, men would have sex even faster and with more women to satisfy themselves. Five years of research and studying 237 reasons on WHY people have sex, research has already shown that it's lust that drives temptation and not love. Infidelity will definitely increase.

4. Condom sale rises, government bp rises too
Vibrating condoms, glowing condoms, condoms with rings, paan flavoured condoms, female condom... 2007 saw much happening in the latex industry. While people responded positively, some felt sexual satisfaction was against'Indian culture'. It's a miracle 68 per cent Indians are happy with their sex lives.
Circa 2008: Sides will be divided on whether vibrating condoms are sex toys and if sex toys should be allowed. While sex toys might just be introduced in the market this year, availability and access are question. While 57 per cent Indians want sex toys (politically correct phrase is'products aimed at improving sex lives') it will be an interesting purchase for most are shy even when purchasing condoms.

5. And adult sex education someone?
Just when Indian parents were celebrating that their teenage children are really not having sex in schools - research showed that Indians lose their virginity late at 22.9 years - another research announced that late'losers' could have sex related problems, like premature ejaculation. A whole lot of Indians don't get married till 30 years.
Circa 2008: With teenagers growing up confused about sex and government banning anything related to Sexual Pleasure for adults, Indians will be clearly divided. A large number of Indians will marry young. The late singles will live-in with each other... Those who cant get married or cant find a release will roam the streets, disrobing women in mobs. There will be more trouble with landlords and more government people will be unhappy. There will be more surveys.

Thursday, January 3, 2008

What a Woman Wants !!!!!!!!! :)

More Than Anything


A woman was sitting at a bar enjoying a cocktail after work one night, when the bar door opened and the most gorgeous hunk of a man she had ever seen entered.

He was tall, muscular, and handsome, with thick dark hair and beautiful, sparkling green eyes, and his every movement was so masculine and sensuous that the woman could not help but stare.


The man noticed that he was the object of the woman's rapt attention, and with a sly, sexy smile, approached her. Blushing, she prepared to apologize for staring, but he leaned close and whispered in her ear.

"I'll do anything," he whispered in a deep, soft voice. "Anything, absolutely anything you want, anything you have ever fantasized for only fifty dollars. There's just one condition... "

Trembling with anticipation, the woman asked him the condition. The man said, "You have to tell me what you want me to do in just three words."

The woman gazed into his hypnotic eyes, considering the proposition, then reached into her handbag and took out fifty dollars. She scribbled her address on a napkin, folded it around the cash, and pressed it into his waiting hand. She leaned over and whispered into his ear...



"Clean... my... house."

Monday, December 31, 2007

Home Remedies for Conception

Conception Problems
The one thing that can be more frustrating than being a parent is trying to become one with no success. For one in seven couples, conceiving a child can be a long and difficult process-it can take at least one year and sometimes requires several.

Some "trying" couples are infertile because of physical problems. But most couples are simply "underfertile" --they are physically able to conceive but have to nudge the stork just a bit more than usual. Here's what experts recommend for them.

Take cough syrup. "Before we had high-tech measures, a lot of doctors would recommend that women take cough syrup containing guaifenesin about four times a day around the time of ovulation," according to Arthur L. Wisot, M.D., a fertility specialist who is affiliated with the Center for Advanced Reproductive Care in Redondo Beach, California. "And that's still sound advice, because guaifenesin thins the cervical mucus, making it easier for sperm to swim through to meet the egg."

Don't lubricate with commercial products. When intercourse needs a helping hand, couples sometimes use a commercial lubricant like K-Y Jelly. But that can hurt your chances of conceiving. That's because these products can impair sperm, making them less able to reach the egg, says John Willems, M.D., associate clinical professor of obstetrics/gynecolo gy at the University of California, San Diego, and a researcher at the Scripps Clinic and Research Foundation in LaJolla. "A woman's natural lubricants should be all you need."

But egg white may help. If you need a lubricant during intercourse, try using egg white instead of a pharmaceutical lubricant, suggests Andrew Toledo, M.D., a fertility specialist and reproductive endocrinologist who is assistant clinical professor of medicine in the Department of Gynecology and Obstetrics at Emory University in Atlanta. Because the egg white lubricant is pure protein--as are sperm--it makes a better "carrier" than lubricants made from nonprotein substances.

If dryness is a problem, Dr. Toledo recommends using the egg white lubricant during the days when a woman is fertile and a regular lubricant the rest of the time. But don't use egg white if you're allergic to it, and be sure to separate the white from the yolk before applying it to either the penis or the vagina.

Take more vitamin C. Studies by researchers at the University of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston show that large doses of vitamin C can reverse some cases of male infertility. The team there, headed by Earl B. Dawson, Ph.D., reported that men who increased their vitamin C intake to 1,000 milligrams daily (the Recommended Dietary Allowance is 60 milligrams) showed increased sperm count, motility and longevity.

Stub out cigarettes. Smokers' alert: Women who smoke have more difficulty getting pregnant, according to studies by researchers at the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences in Research Triangle Park, North Carolina. "But we don't yet understand the biological reason why," says Allen Wilcox, M.D., Ph.D., chief of the Epidemiology Branch at the institute. So if you smoke, you may better your chances of conception by giving it up.

Practice clean living. Smoking isn't the only vice that hurts your chances of conceiving. Studies at the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences showed that women who drink just one cup of coffee daily may halve their chances of becoming pregnant each menstrual cycle (compared with those who don't get any caffeine). "Cutting out caffeine seems to help some women, but not others. It may be worth a try," says Dr. Wilcox.

And there are other factors to consider as well. "You need to get your act together--don' t use drugs, stop drinking, and avoid all unnecessary medications, " says Dr. Wisot. To add to their healthy lifestyle, he also recommends that women start taking prenatal vitamins.

Wear boxer shorts. For some men, fashionable underwear styles may be the shortcut to fatherhood. Tight-fitting jockey shorts pull the testicles close to the body, and body heat impairs sperm, according to Dr. Wisot. He recommends wearing looser-fitting boxer shorts.

Don't soak in a hot tub, guys. High-temperature water can also lower sperm count and motility, says Dr. Wisot, so the man who wants to be Dad should stay away from hot tubs.

Go missionary. Although sexual position usually has no bearing on conception, "the missionary position assures better contact of the semen with the cervix--and may make the difference in marginal cases," says Dr. Wisot.

Keep a calendar. Most fertility specialists say that you and your partner should try to conceive for at least one year before assuming you have a conception problem."Generally, if a woman has an average 28-day cycle, she will begin ovulating on the 14th day," says Dr. Wisot. "If she's on an irregular cycle, ovulation usually occurs 14 days before her next expected menstrual cycle." Keeping track on a calendar for a few months is a good way to see your pattern.

Get help from a kit. "There are several ovulation kits that you can buy over the counter that help tell a woman when she's ovulating," adds Dr. Wisot. "Starting on the 16th or 17th day before your period, you should test your urine each evening with these kits. When you get a positive test, have intercourse the next day."

Go for the gold the second time around. Probably the biggest mistake couples make is assuming that a man's first ejaculation is his best. Actually, a woman is more likely to get pregnant when a man ejaculates two days before she starts ovulation and then they wait until she is ovulating before they try to conceive. "Usually that second specimen is better, both in sperm count and motility," says Dr. Wisot.

Sunday, December 30, 2007

Home Remedies for INFERTILITY MEN / WOMEN

Female Inferterility

Infertility in females refers to the incapacity to conceive and give birth to a living baby. Infertility or failure to reproduce must be distinguished from frigidity which denotes failure to perform the sex act or performing it imperfectly.

Female infertility symptoms

Psychological factors can result in various female sterility symptoms
Psychological factors like emotional stress, tension, mental depression, anxiety, and fear may also result in psychosomatic sterility. This condition is generally temporary and can be corrected by psychotherapy

Causes Of Infertility In Men:

1.Any current medical illness.
2.Medical history (mumps, sexually transmitted diseases).
3.Surgical history (operations on testes, inguinal hernia repair).
4.Occupation (exposure to excessive heat, toxins).
5.Drugs (chemotherapy) .
6.Smoking, alcohol indigestion.
7.Erectile or ejaculatory difficulties.

Causes Of Infertility In Women:

Age is an important factor in female sub-fertility. Increasing age reduces fertility in women and also the likelihood of successful treatment.Even in a younger woman, a depleted ovarian reserve will reduce natural fertility.

1.Gynaecological conditions-ovulatio n failure-oligomenorr hoea or amenorrhoea, tubal damage, cervical mucous defects, uterine fibroids, endometriosis, etc.
2.Coital infrequency and poor timing.
3.Menstrual irregularities.
4.Pelvic infection(current or past).
5.Current medical illness like Tuberculosis.
6.Smoking, alcohol indigestion.

Causes of female infertility
Female infertility due to physical disabilityFemale infertility may be due to physical defects, physical debility, and functional faults. Sterility due to physical debility can result from poor health as a consequence of certain acute or chronic diseases. Complaints like gonorrhoea, syphilis, and inflammation of the fallopian tubes also come under this category.

Other causes of female infertility
Chronic anaemia, constipation, and leucorrhoea aggravate these conditions. Sterility may also be caused by loss of essential glands or organs of reproduction, or a decrease in their functions. Obesity or emaciation due either to dietetic errors or faulty metabolism are other factors which call contribute to female infertility.

Female infertility treatment

Female infertility treatment using Banyan Roots
The tender roots of the banyan tree are one of the valuable remedies found beneficial in the treatment of female sterility where there are no organic defect or congenital deformities. These roots should be dried in the shade and finely powdered. About twenty grams of this powder should be mixed with milk, which should be five times the weight of this powder, and taken at night for three consecutive nights after the monthly periods are over. When this remedy is administered, no other food should be eaten for a short while thereafter. This remedy should be repeated after the completion of the menstrual cycle every month till conception takes place.

Female sterility treatment using Jambul
An infusion of the fresh tender leaves of jambul fruit is an excellent remedy for sterility or miscarriage due to an ovarian or endometrium functional disorder. The infusion can be prepared by pouring 250 ml of boiling water over 20 gm of fresh jambul leaves, and allowing it to steep for two hours. The infusion may be taken with either two teaspoons of honey or 200 ml of buttermilk.

Female infertility treatment using Winter Cherry
The herb winter cherry is another valuable remedy found helpful in sterility. The herb should be powdered and six grams of this powder should be taken with one cup of milk for five to six nights after menstruation.

Female sterility treatment using Nutrients
Certain nutrients, especially vitamins C and E, and zinc, have been found helpful in some cases of sterility. A woman who is unable to conceive should take 1000 mg of vitamin C, 100 I.U. of vitamin E and 30 mg of zinc daily.

Infertility Diet
Seeds, nuts, curd and cottage cheese.Physical debility and functional faults of organic nature can be cured by simple and effective methods of natural treatment, of which optimum nutrition is an essential part. Fasting is the best remedy for the treatment of disorders resulting from toxins in the system. A short fast of two or three day should be undertaken at regular intervals by women who are unable to bear children. Diet is an important factor in the treatment of infertility. It should contain seeds, nuts, grains, vegetables, and fruits. These foods should be supplemented with milk, vegetable oils, and honey. Curd and cottage cheese are also
recommended. About seventy to eighty per cent of the diet should consist of foods in their natural uncooked state, because cooking destroys much of the nutritional value of most foods. Sprouting is an excellent way of consuming seeds, beans, and grains in their raw form, as in the process of sprouting, the nutritional value is multiplied, new vitamins are created and the protein quality is improved.

Food to be avoided
Excessive fat, spicy foods, strong tea, coffee, white sugar, white flour, refined cereals, flesh foods, greasy or fried foods should all be avoided.Other female infertilty treatment

Warm-water enema
The bowels should be cleansed by a warm-water enema during the period of fasting and afterwards when necessary. This will have a beneficial effect not only on the digestive system but also on the surrounding organs of the urinary and genital system.

Yogasanas
Certain Yogasanas which are said to tone up the gonads or ovaries should also be practised regularly for overcoming female sterility. These asanas are sarvangasana, matsyasana, ardhamatsyendrasana ,paschimottanasana and shalabhasana. All these measures, along with clean habits, proper rest, and relaxation will go a long way in overcoming female sterility.

Mud packs and cold-water treatments
Other helpful measures in overcoming female sterility are mud packs and cold-water treatments like a hip bath and wet girdle pack. These treatments greatly improve internal circulation in the genital organs and relieve them of all kinds of inflammation and other abnormalities. Mud packs may be applied to the abdomen and sexual organs. The cold hip bath should be taken for ten minutes at a water temperature of 10degree C-18.3 degree C. For a wet girdle pack, a thin underwear wrung in cold water should be worn. Over this, a thick, dry cotton or woollen underwear should be worn. All cold treatments should be suspended during menstruation.

FOR COUPLES

Here is what experts advise couples who are beginning to worry about their lack of success at conception

Give it a year. If you're under 28, your sex life is wonderful, and there's nothing in your medical history that points to a possible reproductive problem, our experts say keep trying for a year.

"About 60 percent of couples conceive within six months and 90 percent within the year," says Mitchell Levine, M.D., an obstetrician/ gynecologist with Woman-Care in Cambridge, Massachusetts. "When you get older, naturally, fertility decreases a bit."

Even women in their twenties don't ovulate every month, adds Joseph H. Bellina, M.D., Ph.D., director of Omega International Institute, a fertility clinic in New Orleans, Louisiana. In the thirties, the likelihood of monthly ovulation begins to lessen. That's why the older you are, the sooner you'll want to consult a specialist

Talk it out. Are you both sure you want that baby, or is one of you ambivalent? Our experts have had plenty of stories about couples who try half-heartedly for years but don't conceive until after one partner's uncertainty is resolved.

"I had a couple where the man was older, he had children from another marriage, and he wasn't sure he wanted to be a father at this point in his life," says Dr. Levine. "After a couple of sessions of really talking it out, he got really excited about becoming a father again. And that's when they conceived."

"It's eerie," adds Marilyn Milkman, M.D., a San Francisco obstetrician/ gynecologist and clinic faculty member at the University of California, San Francisco. "I've had four patients come in for fertility evaluations, walk out the door, and become pregnant within the month."

Let the passion take you. Forget about ovulatory charts, mucus charts, and scheduled sex until you absolutely have to worry about them. If you've got time, "let the passion take you," says Dr. Milkman. "Often that does better."

Ease up on your work schedule. Workaholism and constant pressure can put the squeeze on fertility, says Dr. Levine. "I see a lot of career people and I say to them 'take a look at what message you're giving to your body.' " For Dr. Levine, it makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint. Your body knows that a period of extreme stress is not an ideal time to get regnant.

Use the standard missionary position on days when you suspect the woman is fertile. The man-on-top style of intercourse is best for conception, says Dr. Bellina. The woman should remain lying down for 20 minutes after her partner ejaculates."I advise couples to have intercourse on those nights and then fall asleep," he says.

Stop smoking. Cigarettes can impair fertility in men and women. Studies of men have shown that smokers are more likely than nonsmokers to have sperm counts below the normal range, and to have less sperm motility. An English study of 17,032 women showed that the more cigarettes a woman smoked per day, the less fertile she was likely to be. Researchers suspect that smoking may alter hormone levels in a woman's body.

FOR WOMEN ONLY

Here are some helpful measures that women can take to help increase the chances of pregnancy.

Make sure you're ovulating. Are you having regular periods? If not, you may not ovulate.

"One key to ovulation is noticeable changes in cervical mucus midway through the cycle," says Dr. Milkman. "The mucus will be thin, watery, and clear." Other signs include premenstrual breast tenderness,cramps, and what the Germans call mittelschmerz— ovulation pain, she says.

Another way to test ovulation is with a kit you buy at the drugstore. The kit, which reads levels of the ovulation release hormone in your urine, is only about 50 percent effective when you use it morning and night, says Dr. Bellina. Kits available only through your doctor's office tend to be more accurate. The best time to test is between 10:00 a.m. and noon.

If you get a positive result the first month you use it, great. If three cycles pass without giving you a positive result, it could mean that either the kit isn't sensitive enough for you or you're not ovulating. Either way, consult your doctor.

If you want to be a fertility goddess, try to look like one. Some women can induce ovulation by putting on a few pounds or taking off a few. In general, the closer your actual weight is to the ideal weight listed in the Metropolitan Life statistical tables, the better. You want to be within 95 percent of that ideal but below 120 percent.

Researchers have found that body fat can actually produce and store estrogen, a hormone that primes the body for pregnancy. When total body estrogen is too high or too low, the system can be thrown off balance. The more fat, the more estrogen produced .

In one study by reproductive endocrinologist G. William Bates, M.D., a professor of obstetrics and gynecology and dean of the Medical University of South Carolina College of Medicine, 29 slim and nonovulatory women attained ovulation when they gained enough weight to put them within 95 percent of the ideal. Within three years of entering the program, 24 of the 29 became pregnant. In another study by Bates, 11 of 13 overweight and nonovulatory women regained ovulation after they lost weight: 10 conceived.

Go easy on the exercise. There are two reasons for this. If exercise causes you to lose too much body fat, you can stop ovulating. But even if you maintain normal body weight, you may still put yourself at risk if you spend more than an hour a day working hard at activities like running, cross-country skiing, or Swimming.

In a study of 346 women with ovulatory dysfunction, Beverly Green, M.D., a maternal and infant health specialist in Silverdale, Washington, found some evidence that women who had never been pregnant and who exercised vigorously for more than an hour a day increased their risk of infertility. The study found that exercise exerted its effect on fertility through a means independent of its ability to promote weight loss.

What's going on here? Dr. Green is not sure. Dr. Bellina suspects the endorphins, brain chemicals released during vigorous exercise, may, like morphine, affect a woman's prolactin levels. Elevated prolactin levels may interfere with ovulation.

At any rate, Dr. Green, a marathon runner who had no difficulty bearing children, cautions against overinterpreting her study. Her advice to dedicated athletes? "Try to cut back and see if it makes a difference."

Time it just right. If ovulation is occurring normally, maybe you're just not making love when you're fertile. It could be that simple, says Dr. Levine.

"Sometimes you've got two career people, they're having intercourse maybe once or twice a week, and they're just not hitting it," he says.

How do you remedy this? Try to predict ovulation. If you don't want to fuss much, you can predict the date of your next period and count back 14 days. Then make love every night from day 11 through day 16. Or you can buy an over-the-counter ovulation test kit, which will give you about 24 to 36 hours advance warning of ovulation. When the test indicates ovulation, make love that night and the night after, advises Dr. Bellina.

Thou shalt not douche. Anything that interferes with the pH level of the vagina can make life unfriendly for sperm. That includes douches, lubrication agents, and jellies."I tell people never to douche," says Dr. Milkman. "If you leave the vagina alone, it will do just fine at cleaning itself."

Go easy on caffeine. More than a cup of coffee a day can hurt your chances of becoming pregnant. The same holds true if you ingest the equivalent amount of caffeine from chocolate, soft drinks, or other caffeinated beverages.

In a study of 104 women who were attempting to become pregnant, researchers at the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences found that those who drank more than the caffeine equivalent of a cup of coffee a day were half as likely to conceive as those who consumed less.

FOR MEN ONLY

And on the male side of the equation, there is more advice.

Give your sperm time to bounce back. Any viral illness associated with fever can depress sperm count for up to three months, says Neil Baum, M.D., director of the Male Infertility Clinic in New Orleans, Louisiana, and a clinical assistant professor of urology at Tulane University School of Medicine. Bad colds can have the same effect.

Why is the effect so long-lasting? According to Dr. Baum, the normal cycle to produce a sperm is 78 days. It takes another 12 days for the sperm to mature. Healthy semen, by the way, contains in excess of 20 million sperm per teaspoon. If you looked at the sample under a microscope, more than 60 percent would appear to be swimming forward.

If your sperm count is healthy, a cold or flu probably won't knock it out of the fertility range. But if it's borderline, an illness may.

Say no to steroids. Anabolic steroids can shut off the pituitary gland and alter the body's natural
hormone balance, says Dr. Baum. "It's not uncommon for athletes to have infertility problems," he adds. "Long-time use of steroids can permanently damage the testicles."

Be wary of drugs and alcohol. Various over-the-counter and prescription drugs can depress sperm count. If you're not sure about the medications you use, consult your pharmacists or doctor. Tagamet, an ulcer medication, is one to watch out for. Others include chemotherapeutic agents and certain antibiotics. And various studies over the years show that chronic drinking and habitual marijuana use can be at fault, too.

Keep 'em cool. Nature's way of keeping your testicles a half-degree cooler than your core body
temperature is to house them outside the body. But if you heat the core temperature too much, or heat the testes themselves, you can affect sperm production.

Dr. Baum advises you to be careful about excessive physical activity, temperature extremes, hot tubs, and close-fitting underwear if you want to father a child.

Remember that abstinence makes the sperm grow stronger. If a baby is what you're after, daily intercourse can be too much of a good thing because it can decrease your sperm count.

"For the average couple, this doesn't matter," says Dr. Levine. "But in a borderline case, this may do it." Most experts recommend you abstain for two days prior to the woman's fertile period to let the sperm build up, then make love every other day.

Friday, December 28, 2007

Home Remedies for Erectile Dysfunction

What can go wrong?
Sexual dysfunction may take many forms. The most common problems are Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (low sex drive) and Penile Erectile Dysfunction (difficulties in achieving and maintaining an erection).

While psychological factors can play a big role in sexual problems, studies have suggested that 20 - 50% of men with erectile dysfunction have some organic base for their problem.

The most common organic causes of sexual dysfunction or a low sex drive are:
  • Cardiovascular Renal or urological Nutritional (malnutrition, vitamin deficiency)
  • Endocrine (hormonal) Neurological Pharmacological (alcohol, smoking, recreational and prescription drugs)
  • Environmental toxins (lead, herbicides)
  • General systemic health problems
  • Sexual dysfunction may range from mild (low sex drive, weak erections, lack of energy, slow and weak ejaculation) to severe (total inability to achieve erection and complete lack of sexual desire)

What really helps?
There is a great deal of confusion about what really helps to treat sexual dysfunction. In
addition, those men simply wanting to increase sexual desire and performance are literally swamped with emails and other marketing gimmicks promising to make them into sexual mean
machines with women simply lining up to meet them!

Medical interventions to treat sexual dysfunction include the following:
  • Testosterone injections
  • Penile self injections with vascoactive drugs (to increase blood flow to the penis)
  • Vacuum constriction devices
  • Penile prosthetic implants
  • Microvascular surgery
  • Medication (vasodilators like Viagra, Vasomax, apomorphine or suppositories)

Are there effective natural treatments?

In many cases, sexual dysfunction or sluggish sexual responses may be caused by poor systemic health, stress, the build up of toxins and unhealthy lifestyles.

In a way, sexual health can be seen as a sort of 'barometer' of overall systemic and psychological health. Men who are healthy, fit and confident about themselves and about life usually report a vigorous and satisfying sex life, no matter what their age.

Practitioners of Chinese and Ayurvedic medicine, African herbalists and traditional healers
from a wide range of cultures have many centuries of knowledge regarding the use of herbal
medicines to treat a wide variety of medical problems and to promote optimum health and
functioning.

In this respect, certain herbs have been identified as having strong aphrodisiac properties and the ability to improve sexual functioning and overall systemic health.

Recent studies have shown that many of these herbs have the ability to improve peripheral and systemic blood flow and to act as vasodilators, leading to increased blood flow to the penis and erectile tissue and therefore heightened sexual pleasure and performance.

In the correct dosage, certain herbs have also been shown to stimulate adrenal glands, improve endocrine and male hormonal functioning, boost stamina and vitality, increase libido and improve the health and functioning of the sexual organs, especially the prostate, penis and urethral systems.

Home remedies for Errectile Dysfunction
Use products that contains the following ingredients:

Maca (lepidium meyenii) - is a plant grown in Peru that produces a radish-like root that is responsible for its sex-enhancing ability. In studies, subjects given maca experienced greater sexual satisfaction, increased energy, and stamina. This plant has long been used to restore sexual vitality, enjoyment and performance.

L-Arginine - is an crystalline, free-form amino acid that has been show to improve erections, while at the same time benefiting cardiac blood vessel reactivity. It is also an important factor in muscle metabolism and aids in transportation, storage and disposal of nitrogen throughout the body.

Oatstraw (avena sativa) - this restorative herb assists in renewing and strengthening the vitality of the nervous system as well as restoring elasticity to veins and improving circulatory functions. Other noted benefits of Oatstraw are increased balance, memory, sensitivity to pleasant stimuli, and improved coordination.

Ginseng blend (Siberian, American, Korean) - has long been used traditionally as a stimulant
to deliver extra energy. It is also well know for its aphrodisiac effects. This herb has been demonstrated to combat impotence, infertility and premature ejaculation. In addition it also
normalizes blood pressure while revitalizing the body and promoting the growth of nerve tissue. Additionally, Ginseng contains the key ingredient ginsenoside, which alters the blood flow to the brain and penis it also increases sperm production.

Catuaba (bark extract, 4:1) - native to brazil and parts of the Amazon, catuaba is a central nervous system stimulant commonly used throughout the world for treating sexual impotence,
exhaustion and fatigue.

Muira Pauma (ptychopetalum olacoides) - the root of this shrub, native to Brazil, has been proven in a sexology study in Paris, France to increases libido as well as helps patients with erectile dysfunction (ED). In fact, preliminary research suggests that Muira Pauma is one of the best botanical remedies for erectile dysfunction and increased blood flow to the penis.

Oyster Meat - since the Roman Empire these creatures have enjoyed a risqué reputation. Well know for their aphrodisiac qualities in both men and women alike, oysters aid in both sperm and testosterone production in men as well as increased libido and sex drive.

Nettle leaf (urtica dioica) - has a long documented history from ancient Greece to present. The polysaccharides (complex sugars) and lectins (large protein-sugar molecules are the active constituents of this plant. They directly affect the hormones and proteins that support sex hormones (such as testosterone and estrogen) within the body. This has been confirmed in double blind studies.

Orchid Substance - has long been known to create an aphrodisiac effect in both men and women. This herb is used for its strong qualities that promote and encourage sexual motivation. The increase in libido due to consuming this plant is unlike any other.

Tribulus (tribulus terrestris) - this Indian herb restores and improves libido, it also prolongs the duration of an erection. It is very popular for its dominate role in supporting the reproductive functions of men. Additionally, it increases anabolic hormones and testosterone to optimum levels as well as increasing sex drive.

Cayenne (capsicum frutescens) - has been used in India for decades for its powerful stimulant effects. Additionally, this plant helps to dilate blood vessels, thus leading to harder more attainable erections. This plant is another must for any man wanting to maximize his sexual performance.

Zinc Oxide - an essential component of more than 300 enzymes needed to maintain fertility
and normal testosterone levels in adult men. It also is known to have beneficial effects on cardiac blood vessel reactivity.

Astragalus (astragalus membranceous) - the roots of this plant are harvested in northern
China and Mongolia. Astragalus is known for it's normalizing effects on the body's functions. Modern research confirms it also supports immune defenses.

Sarsaparilla (smilax officinalis) - is a vine native to tropical America and the West Indies. The roots are unearthed and harvested throughout the year and are used to aid in testosterone activity in the body.

Boron (citrate) - this mineral is vital for proper male nutrition as well as maintaining proper blood levels of estradiol, which is a precursor of estrogen. Estrogen is a sex hormone that must be regulated to insure maximum male sexual performance.

Pumpkin (cucurbita pepo) - has been scientifically proven to have positive effects on one's health. Pumpkin seed promotes male potency, is an effective prevention of heart and circulatory diseases, and lowers cholesterol levels.

Licorice (glycyrrhizzin glabra) - this powdered root is useful in pill-making because of its absorbent qualities, being used to impart stiffness to pill masses and increase proper absorption.

Those ingredients are proven to increase male stamina, vitality and erection quality.

Monday, December 24, 2007

Home Remedies for MISCARRIAGE

MISCARRIAGE

Miscarriage or abortion may be defined as the termination of pregnancy before the period of viability, which is considered to occur at 28 th week. Miscarriages generally take place in the first two trimesters. The chance of a miscarriage in the third trimester is extremely low.

Various causes for the miscarriage may be infection such as viral infection, chronic illness such as chronic nephritis, acute or chronic respiratory disease, and severe anemia. Direct trauma on the abdominal wall by blow or fall may be related to abortion. Emotional upset or change in environment may lead to abortion by affecting the uterine activity. A mom in a high stress situation (perhaps unmarried, financial problems, health problems, unstable marriage, unwanted pregnancy, etc.) is more likely to miscarry. In some women even a minor trauma, internal examination in the early months of pregnancy or sexual intercourse in early months can also lead to abortion.

Environmental toxins like lead, arsenic, anesthetic gases, tobacco, caffeine, alcohol, radiation in excess amount increase the risk of abortion. Drugs used for epilepsy or antimalarial preparations are not harmful when used in small doses but in high doses they can induce abortion.

Cervical incompetence, either congenital or acquired is one of the commonest causes of midtrimester and recurrent abortions. Congenital malformation of the uterus may be responsible for midtrimester or recurrent abortion. Premature rupture of the membranes inevitably leads to abortion. Hormonal imbalance due to deficiency of progesterone making the uterine environment less receptive is also responsible for abortion.

Other causes of miscarriage may include the following: Chromosomal abnormalities of the fetus, incompetent os i.e. weakness of the cervical muscles, excessive water i.e. hydramnios, low-lying placenta causing bleeding and consequently abortion, and lifting heavy weights

Sometimes dietary factors such as deficiency of folic acid or vitamin E are often thinks to be responsible for the abortion. When a pregnant woman is under stress, she not only depletes her own vitamin and mineral reserves and her own adrenal and glandular strength, but she drains these things off her baby. The patient with threatened abortion shows the increased vaginal bleeding, aggravation of pain in the lower abdomen.

HOME REMEDIES FOR MISCARRIAGE

  1. Drinking raspberry tea during pregnancy strengthens the uterus, which will coordinate contractions and shorten labor.
  2. Take the herbs cramp bark along with wild yam to relieve leg pains and to prevent miscarriages.
  3. The herb corn silk can help in easy labor and reduce bleeding after labor.
  4. Nutmeg tea helps the uterus to contract and lessens bleeding afterbirth.
  5. The herb thyme taken in a tea helps expel the placenta.
  6. Apply myrrh to the newborn's navel after the cord has been removed to prevent infection.
  7. St.-John's-wort taken in the form of capsules helps to relieve after pain.
  8. The herbs pennyroyal and mistletoe may induce abortion by causing uterine contractions.
  9. The herbs cramp bark and hawthorn may be taken in capsules to help prevent miscarriages.
  10. The herbs red raspberry, false unicorn, and lobelia help to strengthen the uterus which will helpin shortening labor. Take them regularly during pregnancy.
  11. The herbs catnip and cayenne in capsules help to prevent morning sickness.
  12. The herbs bayberry and mistletoe help in stopping bleeding from the uterus.
  13. The herbs wild yam, red raspberry, false unicorn, and hawthorn will strengthen the uterus muscles, prevent miscarriage, and reduces cramps.
  14. Take cod liver oil, iodine, and iron to prevent morning sickness, and birth defects in your infant.
  15. Take dandelion, kelp, and alfalfa to provide minerals and keep weight off the hips.
  16. Alcohol consumption is the leading cause of birth defects and mental retardation in newborns and should be avoided at all stages of pregnancy.
  17. Smoking during pregnancy robs the baby of oxygen and contributes to colic.
  18. The diet must include whole, live foods. Herbs and other nutritional supplements may be used to enhance the diet. Fresh vegetables, fresh fruits, whole grains, sprouts, butter (not margarine), dairy products (if they are tolerated), nuts, seeds, organically raised animal protein (to avoid the hormones and antibiotics used in producing commercial animals) and yogurt are the types of foods to be included in the diet.
  19. Red raspberry acts as a uterine tonic, contains many vitamins and minerals including calcium, magnesium, iron and B-Complex.
  20. Good natural source vitamins can also be used to prevent miscarriages and enhance the health of both mom and babe. Some that are considered to be essential are vitamin E, Zinc, Vitamin B6 and B-Complex.

Monday, December 17, 2007

True Lies about Marriage

LIE 1: ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

Marital bliss is a myth. The type of unconditional love that one has for their own children, doesn't and shouldn't exist between marital partners. We live in a culture that stresses a preoccupation with personal happiness above all and a belief that marriage is the solution to life's problems and essential for personal happiness. This type of thinking leaves people unskilled in developing and managing intimate relationships and couples who have little appreciation for the true difficulties and complexities of married life.

LIE 2: I TALK ALL THE TIME; MY SPOUSE JUST DOESN'T LISTEN

Most of us talk ourselves to death but we actually communicate very poorly. We are encouraged to be open about our feelings but very few of us know how to speak or listen effectively. Relationship experts advise us to tell it like it is and be brutally honest to our partners but the truth is that brutal honesty often encourages brutality more than honesty. Spouses use their version of the truth to bludgeon their partners into submission.

LIE 3: PEOPLE DON'T REALLY CHANGE

Many today believe that deep down, people can't change much or that nothing in a marriage can change unless both partners change. These incorrect and pessimistic beliefs sabotage efforts to improve the marriage. Most people go about trying to change their relationships in unproductive ways, get frustrated by the results and then claim that this outcome proves that people don't change, but even if one partner is adamantly set against change, there's a lot the other partner can do.

LIE 4: WHEN YOU MARRY, YOU CREATE YOUR OWN FAMILY LEGACY

You may live far away from your family of origin, but now that you have your own family, their grip on you is tighter than ever. When we become husbands, wivesand parents, the models and issues we saw within our families of origin emerge and take over our relationships. Our grandparents were likely to live close to their parents (if not in the same house), see each other often and stay personally involved in each other's lives. Today, in our highly mobile society, we tend to live farther from our parents. Paradoxically, their influence may be greater than ever. Spouses who don't appreciate the power their original families exert on their values and styles tend to face problems in their marriages.

LIE 5: EGALITARIAN MARRIAGE IS EASIER THAN TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE

In the newer, egalitarian model of marriage, the expectation is that while not every chore will be split halfway, family responsibilities should be divided fairly, and decisionmaking power will be shared. The husband in this model respects his wife's work and shares in family life, never insisting on being in control based on financial earnings or gender. Equality in theory is wonderful; in reality, but spouses in trouble often are conflicted over gender role expectations and responsibilities.

LIE 6: CHILDREN SOLIDIFY A MARRIAGE

Let's speak the unspeakable: Children are an enormous threat to your marriage. It's very, very difficult to admit that the children you love so much can drive a wedge into your life as a couple. However,the reality is that in a world where spouses already work too hard and don't spend enough time with each other, the addition of children usually eats up the remaining physical and emotional energy you had for each other. Even when you love your children fiercely, even when you think you are prepared for the tremendous dislocation they would cause, children can tear your marriage down to its bedrock.

Friday, November 30, 2007

5 Things that Can Ruin Your Marriage .......

1. Not having sex
A sexless marriage is a common bad habit that too many married couples fall into. But the importance of sex cannot be minimized. Sex serves as one of the best ways to develop and maintain intimacy, but when you go without sex for so long you get so used to it that your mind begins to not want it anymore.Many issues can contribute to a sexless marriage, like pregnancy, stress, fatigue or resentment. But here’s how to save your marriage from this bad habit: have sex! Even if you don’t feel like it, do it. Don’t turn down your partner unless there’s a very good reason. Luckily, once you just do it, you’ll probably actually enjoy yourself.

2. Spending too much time with the in-laws
Another common bad habit married couples fall into is in-law interference with marriage. Many couples will tell you that in-law issues can quickly become a source of frustration and resentment in the marriage. The interference is caused by spending too much time with the in-laws (especially at your own home), providing private information about your marriage or spouse to them, or siding with them over your spouse.While a spouse can be rightfully close to his or her family, the disloyalty will do nothing to save your marriage. First and foremost, your loyalty lies with your marriage, and just because it’s family doesn’t mean it’s OK to gossip or betray your spouse.

3. Not consulting your partner about purchases
Many married couples will tell you that the issue of money is the most contentious of marital problems. Sometimes it’s the intentional refusal to disclose where money is being spent, and sometimes it’s just a bad habit of not being on the same page with monetary purchases or goals.The fact remains that marriage is a partnership in every sense of the word, and developing a bad money habit will not only cause anger and resentment, but it can also compromise your financial security. This is one habit not worth picking up.

4. Forgetting the smaller gestures
Even the small ones matter when you’re breaking bad habits. Small gestures include kissing your husband or wife when they walk through the door, asking if there’s anything you can get them while you’re up, or offering to do a chore you know your partner hates doing.Married couples tend to think that because they’ve been together for so long, these thoughtful gestures can be forgone. But it’s these smaller gestures which keep the intimacy alive and keeps you both feeling emotionally connected.

5. Picking up bad habits from your partner
Here is a bad habit within a bad habit. Maybe you’ve started drinking as much as your husband as an excuse to spend more time together, or maybe your wife started letting herself go, and as a result, you don’t frequent the gym or health food aisle as much anymore. Married couples undoubtedly pick up on each other’s bad habits because of the natural close proximity of the relationship. One partner may also pick up on the other’s bad habits as an excuse or as a way to get back at the other (if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em). Develop good habits together and practice them as a team.It’s easier for you to save your marriage from bad habits by nipping them in the bud as soon they develop. But if your bad habits have been around for years, it’s still worth your while to overcome them for the sake of a happy marriage.Now that you can better see how these bad habits may be creating a void within your marriage, you’ll be more motivated to solve these marital problems quickly and get back to that blissful union you started out with.